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You Are Enough: How To Break Free From Domestic Abuse And Live Your Best Life Ever

July 08, 20235 min read

You are enough! And you are wonderful, just the way you are. There is nothing wrong with you, only unhealed trauma and severe reaction to some triggers. This too shall pass.


Domestic violence and narcissistic abuse can be incredibly isolating and destructive experiences. They can make you feel like you're not good enough, and that you'll never be able to escape. But the truth is, you are enough. You are worthy of love, respect, and happiness. And you can break free from the abuse.

You are enough! And You Are Wonderful Just The Way You Are.

Let's start with some definitions, to make sure we all talk about the same thing.

Domestic violence

Domestic violence is any behavior that is used to control or dominate another person through fear, intimidation, or physical or emotional abuse. It can include physical violence, sexual violence, emotional abuse, financial and economic abuse.

Abuse vs Violence

Abuse is the abnormal use of another person, a thing, or a substance. When you feel used and abused, and you feel that you have to continuously give more and more and that it's hard to come through with whatever you need, you're getting depleted, used, and abused.

Violence is when there is a movement of control or domination from one person to another, leveraging fear, intimidation, mind games, and guilt trips to get you to do things that you didn't want to do initially. It can include the use of brute force as well as the pathological use mind games to exert complete control over the victim.

Narcissistic Abuse

Narcissistic abuse is a form of emotional abuse that is characterized by manipulation, control, and gaslighting. Narcissists are often very charming and charismatic, and they can be very good at making their victims feel like they are the only ones who understand them. However, once they have their victim's trust, they will start to use that trust to control and manipulate them, to isolate and control them, and to make them the scapegoat for anything and everything that they dislike in their experience regardless of the facts.

The Effects of Domestic Violence and Narcissistic Abuse

Domestic violence and narcissistic abuse can have a devastating impact on the victim's physical and emotional health. Victims of domestic violence are more likely to experience depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and other mental health problems. They are also more likely to have physical health problems, such as chronic pain, headaches, and stomach problems.

In addition to the physical and emotional effects, domestic violence and narcissistic abuse can also have a negative impact on the victim's relationships with others. Victims may become isolated from their friends and family, and they may find it difficult to trust others. They may also have difficulty forming new relationships.

How to Break Free from Domestic Violence and Narcissistic Abuse?

Breaking free from domestic violence and narcissistic abuse is not easy. However, it is possible.

If you are in an abusive relationship, please know that you are not alone. There is help available. Please reach out to a trusted friend or a trauma-informed life coach, or call the domestic violence hotline. You are not alone.

Too many people have gone through it before you, and help is on the way if you would raise your hand and are ready to receiving it.

Step 1: Recognize Abuse

The first step to breaking free from domestic violence or narcissistic abuse is to recognize that you are not alone. There are millions of people who have been through what you're going through, and they have found a way to escape. You can too.

Step 2: Shift Your Perspective

The next step is to shift your consciousness. This means changing the way you think about yourself and the situation you're in. You need to start believing that you are worthy of love and respect, and that you deserve to be treated well.

Step 3: Break Free From Abuse

Once you start to believe in yourself, you can start to take steps to break free from the abuse. This may involve getting help from a therapist or counselor, or finding a safe place to stay. It may also involve filing a restraining order against your abuser, filing for divorce if you're married, or quitting your job if you are experience abuse in the workplace, regardless of the question whether you will find another job or not. Your sanity and your health is far more important than this job or this family.

How to Live Your Best Life Ever?

Once you have broken free from domestic violence or narcissistic abuse, you can start to live your best life ever. This means doing things that make you happy and fulfilled. It means spending time with the people you love. It means pursuing your dreams.

Living your best life ever is not always easy. There will be challenges along the way. But it is worth it. You deserve to be happy and fulfilled.

You are enough. You are worthy of love, respect, and happiness. And you can break free from the abuse. It won't be easy, but it is possible. And it is worth it.

Surround yourself with positive, inspiring, and uplifting people. Spend time with people who believe in you and who support you. These people can help you to stay positive and to believe in yourself, especially during the years of rebuilding your self-love, self-worth, self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-mastery.

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Gemma Serenity Gorokhoff

Co-Founder and CEO of GNS, the Global Network of Success Award-winning entrepreneur Multi Show Host Bilingual French-English Professionally trained musician and songwriter

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